Wednesday, December 22, 2010
Recently I purchased the new Tank "Now or Never" CD (might I add that if you're into classic R&B then it's definitely worth the buck). There's a song on there called 'Celebration' that features Drake. The song describes how Tank wants to celebrate all the things he loves about his woman with some romantic time alone. Overall, the song is a hit. It's pretty much on repeat in my car when I take a ride :)
The bar that stuck out to me the most was when Drake said "They say real girls ain't neva perfect, perfect girls ain't real."
You know what's so crazy about this? Mostly EVERY song or rap nowadays about a lady gives this message to its' listeners. In a nutshell, don't sweat the fake because we see right through it. Ok.... so you say this, but do you really mean it? I mean, let's be realistic. Anyone who will say looks don't matter is telling the lie of all lies. The first thing that attracts you to someone is their physical appearance. From there, you begin to unveil their personality, values, etc.
So if "real girls ain't neva perfect" and "perfect girls ain't real", then why waste time with the fake perfect ones? I mean, you already know that the alluring sight of perfection (long weave, fake eyelashes, booty pads, padded bras) is going to lead to disappointment, then why even try? Why does the girl that is fake from head to toe (literally) get the celebration versus the all natural woman?
My conclusion.... you don't want to be challenged. You want someone who looks awesome next to you, but treats your friends and family like strangers. You want someone who spends most of her time trying to look good for everyone, but you. You want someone who enjoys spending money even though she has a bedroom in her mom's house and no source of income on her own. True some women enjoy playing the dress up with additions, but most women are proud of the fact that their significant other doesn't look like he's seen a ghost when they wake up in the morning. Just an observation....
Like it, love it, hate it.... just listen...
Friday, December 17, 2010
I love the direction that you are heading in but overall there needs to be more done. A lot more done. We have the young black women in this day who are getting pregnant to early because of the lack of guidance. We have a lot of young black women who are dropping out of school. We have a lot of young black women who are prioritizing all the things that keep them hindered in society. Sisters...It's your time to teach those behind you how to be persistent and be successful. Sisters who are college graduates with kids, talk to younger sisters with kids and let them know that they need to keep going and advancing themselves. Sisters give these young girls guidance in what they need to make their priority. Black women need your voices and your work now. There are some influential Black women who are never heard of and do miraculous things. Be their voice too. Speak up and speak put about these women! The future of Black women need to know now. Speak up! I could go on and on but all I'm saying is be the voice to instill pride in the voices of tomorrow...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...
Monday, November 29, 2010
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Fathers should talk with their sons as to why we can't treat our women like they aren't women. Mothers need to talk to their daughters about love and why shouldn't they just fall for the 3 words to get them on their backs. Parents need to talk to their children as to why they shouldn't go running for love and they should be patient. It would spare the kids a lot of heartache in the future. Because kids will run to friends first who don't know anything about healthy relationships and what it takes to sustain them. Parents need to have life talks with their children about these topics. I would rather talk to my child about these things early in life than to have my child deal with a tough situation that they aren't somewhat prepared to handle. The next best part, it will create a atmosphere that I can talk to my parents about anything. Instead of seeking aimless advice from friends, they can talk to people who really love them and have their child's best interest in mind...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...
Saturday, October 30, 2010
I know this is supposed to be a joke. I can't lie, I found it funny but at what expense is the laughter? It is things like this which is why white people go hard on the President. We have no respect for him in our own culture. I know everyone will say, this is a joke and it's meant to be funny. It's little things like this that white America uses against us. Black people don't want to admit it but damn near everything we do is under scrutiny. Racism is still out there. If you want to be blind, be blind but it exists all around us. I looked at the comments below for the video and this one person @LILMTJ1 got blasted for comments informing people of how this makes people and the president look. They called LILMTJ1 uppity, told them to lighten up, and so on. SWEETCADYK87 said something that basically sums up this post, " Wake the fuck up "BLACK AMERICA" the joke is on us!" Truth. The joke is on us and we perpetuate the joke more and more as we fail to see the sad undertone of this video. Obama has carried himself as a man of humility, integrity, distinction, pride, and principle from his campaign and throughout his presidency. Yet, we belittle all that by delighting in a video that portrays him as arrogant, a weed-smoking, reckless, an adulterer, and so on. No this one video won't ruin his career but inform me where it helps..........hmmm????.......exactly....nothing to say.......
This white guy made me upset by delighting in the mockery of our president. But I couldn't get mad at him when I see that there are a lot of BLACK people who delight in the mockery of our president. We can complain all we want on how the media treats Obama, but are BLACK people any better? Blacks minimize TOO OFTEN!!! They get mad when people of THEIR own color take this seriously but if a white man started talking, now it's a big deal. Separation in our own race. 2PAC said this in his song Changes: " We gotta start making changes, learn to see me as a brother instead of two distant strangers." We have to come together in union to help support each other and uplift each other. We can't play on two different sides of the field. One mind, one voice. White people should never get a chance to be amused at the expense of our leader and "solidarity." I could go on and on...but I will cut it off there..thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...
Saturday, October 23, 2010
My Thoughts are...I agree with most of what the videos have to say. Ladies I am a strong advocate for you but I will not ever say that you all are not an enigma to deal with at times. A few things I will touch on in the film. She eludes to what she wants in a man but can't find it when it is sitting right there in front of her. I am so tired of Black women saying there are no good Black men out there. That is a a lie damnit! there are plenty of great Black men in the world but unfortunately Black women tend to look elsewhere. I have seen too many Black women who have aspiring futures in front of them but date someone who doesn't have half the potential she does. He doesn't share the same belief. She thinks she can "help inspire" him get his life together. Let's call a spade a spade. You're trying to change him. THAT WON'T HAPPEN. Then when they get treated improperly, there are no good Black men. Look in the mirror!!! Listen to Jazmine Sullivan I'm in Love with Another Man to see if I'm lying. She depicts the Black man that a lot of women are looking for but yet she still turns her back on him. I know most will say follow your heart, and I agree, but she had a great man that most black women want and she still betrayed him. Another thing I found interesting was the fact when talking about submission, she believe everything in the Bible but this. SMH. In my opinion, I think women feel that they are losing a part of themselves when they submit to a man. But if they opened up their eyes, they would see that man is willing to submit to them too. If he loves you the way you want, then your submission should be out of love because if he is a good man, he will treat you like the queens you are. I hate to say it like this, but White women, in my opinion, are better at submitting to their husbands than Black women which could be a reason why they have a much higher marriage rate. A man won't marry a woman who won't submit. If he does, he is a fool. Another thing I have to address, is the declination of sex in the relationship she speaks of in the video. If women do this, they are treading the waters. You can't go from 4 times a week to 4 times a month in an instant. He's got needs you were willing to satisfy at one point. You know your man. You know when he needs his medicine lol. One more thing that pissed me off about this video. When the man was willing to submit to her stipulations, he is weak. It's like, what the heck do you want?!?!?! That is a man who sees the potential in starting a future with you that he will put his pride aside and try to make it work. (FYI:There is no room for egos in a good relationship) But he gets called weak. Well, fuck you!!! Sorry for the language but I had to say it.
In video number 2, we have a girl who starts off the video with breaking up with a man on the path to success. Once again we have a good black man who is about to do something with his life and his woman is asking for some unreal things. She goes down a list of guys she wants and all have extreme flaws. My point in bringing up that list is to highlight that some Black women have a very poor selection in men. My favorite was the Lebron James situation. A man who won't commit. I have met so many women who have ambiguous titles with the men they deal with. There is no real commitment to them but yet they still want to be with him. She can date him for months and still no commitment. She can give him all the things a good woman could give and still no commitment. Rather than get with with a good brother who is willing to commit, they vest their time in that dead end situation. Another thing that I had to touch was the crazy accusations when a man won't fight for her. Look, if you're not worth fighting for, what's the point in wasting time. She made herself look deplorable but gets mad when a man won't fight to save the relationship. If you were worth fighting for, trust me, that man would bug you to the point of insanity. Another thing I had to touch on was the social network stalking. My gosh. This one goes for everybody. We can not stalk our mates on social networks. That isn't right. Remember, your mate has other friends besides you of BOTH sexes. Just because you're in the picture doesn't mean he or she drops their friends. Who knows, in a week or two, you may not be around. The last thing I have to touch on. STOP LETTING TV DETERMINE YOUR GOOD RELATIONSHIP. Half of what you see is true in determining what will work in a good relationship. Take the time to know your man and let you two determine a good relationship.
Look, I don't despise the Black woman. I love the Black woman. The darker the better lol. No offense to the caramel macchiato sisters. I just won't bite my tongue at things I see as true. I have mad love for the sisters of this world and I always will. But I must stand up for the brothers...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts....
Sunday, October 10, 2010
I was riding home with my frat brothers listening to a song and it appalled me that we are the only race to speak so low of our women publicly. We degrade them in our music terribly. We talk about them as they are worthless. When an artist is saying the word "bitch" in a song..He;s not talking about every race. I don't want to hear that. He knows he is talking about a black chick. I was happy to hear that Spelman had a problem with that song. Good for them. As black men, we are doing a horrible job of displaying the best sides of black women. When we are calling them video hoes and portraying them as objects more than women, we are hurting their cause for equal rights. We are also carrying on a legacy of black women being treated with such contempt, in OUR OWN RACE ESPECIALLY!!! I was listening to "Keep Ya Head Up" by 2Pac. The lyrics that got to me were, "I wonder why we take from our women/ Why we rape our women, do we hate our women?" I have to ask..Do we hate our women??? What is it that keeps lack men belittling them instead of uplifting the, The little negative things that we do to black women give more life to negative things that other races will adopt. Going back to the display of black women in videos, black women have a great shape. Black women have some of the sexiest curves known to man. Instead of parading them around as a women to be used and disposed of after, parade her around in the video as someone to be adored. I know someone will be reading, it's just a video but like I said, it's the little things that we give life to.
My next favorite line from that song from Pac is, "I think it's time to kill for our women/Time to heal our women, be real to our women/And if we don't we'll have a race of babies/ That will hate the ladies, that make the babies." He is so true. Black men need to do more to protect and uphold the image of black women. They need to do everything they can to protect her in every possible. I'm hard on black women but I am down for them. I understand that some weren't protected or guided by influential black men in their lives. The treatment that they may receive from black men later can hugely affect their mindset. We need to protect their image too for those who come behind us. This cycle of women being disrespected should not be passed on to the next generation. The status of women cannot continue to be diminished year by year. Black women make so many great strides too. They are graduating at higher rates than black men. They are gaining access to positions black men are still fighting for in life. How can we, as black men, continue to degrade them if they are doing so much more than us? We need to celebrate their achievements and everything else which makes them great...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...
Friday, September 17, 2010
But according to relationship advice columnist Deborrah Cooper, it is this devout style of belief and attachment to the black church that is keeping black women like Davis -- single and lonely. Cooper said, "Black women are interpreting the scriptures too literally. They want a man to which they are 'equally yoked' -- a man that goes to church five times a week and every Sunday just like they do." "If they meet a black man that is not in church, they are automatically eliminated as a potential suitor. This is just limiting their dating pool."
Let me share My Thoughts to this paragraph. I'm probably going to sound biased in this matter and that's ok with me. I am a Christian and won't apologize for this or bite my tongue. First off this lady is generalizing pretty badly. There are a lot of women who go to church a lot but not every woman is on the board of deacons or directors at church, especially with the more emergence of mega-churches. I think equally yoked is more alon the lines of your faith. My uncle works a shift of 3PM-11Pm Monday thru Saturday. My aunt is able to go to church more often than he did during the week. My uncle is still a deacon of the church because he is a true follower of Christ. My uncle works in every capacity he can for our church and is always professing his faith in Christ unashamedly. My aunt is a devout Christian too. She is very faithful to God and a true warrior for God. This is what it means to be equally yoked. Both of them share the same beliefs, live to serve God, and submit to his will while going in the same direction. This is what it means to be equally yoked. Church attendance does not prove anyone to be a Christian. If a woman meets a man who is not going in the same direction as her in regards to a faith that can create unwarranted problems. I think it would be better to date a limited pool rather than date someone you would never be happy with long-term.
My Thoughts to this is those churches are misguided. Yes I said it. I believe there are people who use more a slave mentality to the Bible rather than actually taking the time to understand the knowledge being shared. I was talking to a Frat brother of mine and we were discussing Exodus 14:14. " The Lord will fight for you. Be Still" I have beard pastors improperly preach about this. They say, " Be still and don't do anything. God will take care of it for you. You need to be still" Stop trying to fix the problem. God will fix it for you. That bill you can't pay, God will pay it for you. He already has." Idiots. Some preachers don't go into the depth needed in that verse. It more or less is telling people to exert patience in God that he will take care of it for you. God will send messages your way to enable you to handle the problem. God may set some extra hours for you at your job to work. That could be your solution. He will make a way for you if you're patient and believe in Him. Money won't fall out the sky, not to say it couldn't if God ordains it. But you get my point.
One of biggest reasons black women are single, Cooper says, is because of a lack of black men in the church. According to the PEW study, "African-American men are significantly more likely than women to be unaffiliated with any religion (16 percent vs. 9 percent). Nearly one-in-five men say they have no formal religious affiliation."
My Thoughts on this is.....they may have a point. I have to admit that there is a serious declination of black men in the church this day and age. There are too many sporadic comings and goings on men in the church. They prioritize other things in the place of their salvation. You have a lot of fathers who will go to church on the "big" days like Easter, Christmas, and New Years Day. I admit, I usually don't like to give money in the Pastor's envelope. I think, "There are over 500 people in here with 4 different services and this man still needs a separate envelope." I'm not saying this is always the best way to think about it but this is just how I feel. It is tough for some men to totally submit to the teachings of another man. Think about the stereotype of fathers who never want to pull over to ask for directions despite the insistence of the wives to pull over. What man wants to be told by another man, you aren't capable of getting your family from point A to point B. Another man will be the reason why my family makes it there.
Mark K. Forston, son of a black preacher in Forest Park, Georgia, says some black women "put their pastor on this pedestal and have a large amount of faith in him because he is a living source of salvation."
My Thoughts on this matter...I agree again!!! I'm going to keep this part short. There are TOO MANY WOMEN WHO GLORIFY THEIR PASTORS/PREACHERS/REVERENDS LIKE THEY WERE BORN OF GOD INSTEAD OF CHRIST!!!
My Thoughts...I agree with her. She sums it up well in my opinion. I don't have to beat a dead horse on this one.
Overall, I can agree with certain things from Cooper and I have to disagree with her on some points. I can see what the big uproar was about when this story broke. But I will say this, some women need to think about some of her points..thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Holly Hill says that if a woman takes the time to truly examine her relationship and considers Mother Nature's unerring spell on men's libidos, she might realize that letting her boyfriend or spouse know she's OK with him having sex elsewhere is a logical way to prevent him from doing it in secret.
"I think that cheating men are normal," says Hill. "Monogamous men are heroes. Monogamy does have a place in relationships, but not on the long-term. Men are hard-wired to betray women on the long-term."The author also goes on to say, "It is more powerful for a woman to negotiate infidelity than to wonder why her spouse is coming home late."
I was taken abreast by this topic. I can see both sides of the argument. Problem solver because there are no secrets. One thing we hate in relationships is secrets. A lot of people in relationships feel there should be an unexplained, nonnegotiable openness. One thing you hear in cheating relationships is, "He made me look like a fool." Well you can eliminate this problem by knowing your husband is having relations with another woman. So there is a peace of mind??? Another thing to attribute to this negotiated infidelity is that it can keep the arguments and tension out of your marriage/relationship. Think about it. Let me throw you a scenario. If you have seen the movie Why Did I Get Married, Terry is in a relationship where his wife is pursuing a big career as an attorney and not spending little to any time with him. Terry is upset about the intimacy being gone in the relationship. She is frustrated at his beckoning for her time. Hypothetically, if she let him have a mate on the side, this could have lowered his expectations on her for some of these things. He wouldn't be complaining about sex or someone to spend time with from time to time. Another thing is that you can come back to the relationship when the time of you not having time is over. The wife won't be busy forever. Those are just some examples. I could go on but let me stop there.
Well, on to the problem starter. Negotiated infidelity can work, yes it can, if both parties are on board. If both parties aren't totally on board with the idea, it can create problems down the line. If the wife is kind of shaky about it, you can run into some arguments. If a wife, who agreed to the negotiated infidelity, wants her husband's time but he is with the other woman that can create a lot of problems. She can go off on him for not paying her the attention that he may have wanted from her. Going to my point earlier of the spouse being too busy, she won't be busy forever. She will want some her time too. Another thing that can cause problems too is if the man gets very attached/dependent on the other woman instead of his wife. What if he was inviting the other woman out to places with him instead of his wife? What if it became more than just about sex? Think about when the wife frees up her schedule and wants to cut off the negotiated infidelity. Can you really go back to monogamous relationship? I doubt it.
Thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Thursday, September 2, 2010
It is sad how many T.I.'s we run into in our lives. It is sad that sometimes, we are the T.I.'s of the world. I hope that people really take the time to understand when it's time to change, it's time to change. You are setting yourself up to fail repeatedly doing things the exact same way that landed you in a predicament. You are setting yourself up to feel things about yourself and others when you refuse to change from your current state. If your way has been wrong for so long, what makes you feel it will be right this time. I pray for T.I. and Tiny. I hope both of them get their lives in order. T.I. needs to understand he is above nothing in this world. We are all susceptible to the same failures and fate despite our bank account, our status, and our pride. Every time you choose to never change, you choose to fail. It's OK to fail. Failure spurns growth and change. Being content with your failure is another story. I wonder if T.I. is content with his shortcomings. Ignorance can no longer be an excuse. As publicized as celebrity, athlete, political, etc. failures are publicized, you know where you don't want to be in life. I believe failure is a part of life, growth, and success. Failure is to be learned from, not bound by....thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
I will say this, Blacks must do a better job of carrying the torch that was initially passed on by former leaders of the civil rights movement and even the leaders back to the times of slavery. Blacks are a strong race with so much potential. They have invented many things, participated in many academic arenas, have partaken in different forms of politics, led historic movements, etc. There is no reason for the down turn of this new era. Are there things weighing against blacks? Absolutely. But it was the resilience of Blacks to never be broken that willed them to where they are now. Now Blacks are being broken by their own people and some of their own doing, which is a travesty to me. The image that is becoming prevalent is one of complacency, violence, disorganization, and every other negative stereotype you can assert. That wasn't always the case and I refuse to believe is the case now. But what is being taught to these children? What values are Blacks instilling in them? What hope is being left to these children? What will they aspire to be when there is an insufficient amount of aspiration in the community? Many communities of broken homes, complacency, violence, and sometimes poverty. I pray that Blacks wake up and realize how great they are, how great they've been, and how great they can be...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...
Thursday, August 5, 2010
I know some of you are thinking, that's a lie. It's not. My logic in this is everyone has a base. Everyone has a foundation to them. Everyone has a base to them which can be asserted to another person. Example, if a girl is looking for a guy who is hood. If she looks on the corner of a block at 5 guys. There is a base to all of them that she could play on. She could use that base to acquire any one of the men out of that group. If a guy wanted a girl who is wholesome, there is some type of base that he can draw off of to figure that person out and how to go about attaining this person. The hardest part will be getting the person to divulge about themselves initially. But once they do, and you understand that base about the person, you got them.
We all would like to believe that we are so unique and such a free spirit. You're really not. Sorry to say it like that but you're not. Think of the age old phrase, show me who your friends are and I can tell you who you are. Why is that? Because your friends have a similar base as you to where another person ca figure you out just like everyone else can. There is a base formula to who you are as a person. If I take A characteristics about you + B characteristics, they will = C, your base and who you are. After C, there may be little nuances about you that make you a bit more distinguishable, but that's about it....thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...
Monday, July 12, 2010
There is another to fight always people. Remember that. I hit a stretch recently when I was really kind of down about a few things in life. One thing I was constantly forgetting that there is another day to fight. I let myself beat up on myself about what was not happening for me at that moment in my life. I failed to realize that there is still another day to give it a good shot. I feel that a lot of us forget that there is another day to fight. We get so wound up in that moment and we start to break down. We start to succumb to our shortcomings AT THAT TIME. Your shortcomings can be temporary or they can remain permanent. It's up to you to get up and do something about it people. You have to realize that your weeping MAY endure for the night. But with tomorrow, comes joy in the morning light. That next day represents another opportunity to get it right! The past is the past. Let it go. But the present going into the future, be the master of your fate. I'm a firm believer in Jesus so I will tell you, invite God into this future and let him fight the next day with you. Instead of trying to run away from your problems, invite God in the middle of your problems. I promise you, you will see a change. you just have to get your butt up and make it happen for yourself. Carpe Diem. Seize the DAY or better yet look forward to tomorrow...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Monday, June 21, 2010
Friday, June 4, 2010
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
There is no way in life that you will remain in the same state for your whole life. You have to do somethings in life to progress yourself despite how you evaluate that success. If you plan to progress in life, you have to make a change to your state of mind. You have to make a change in possibly where you live. You already have the foundation set in you but you have to change it up just a bit. Transition is also described as a modulation. A modulation is defined as the act of modifying or adjusting according to due measure and proportion. If you are making more money in your job and you will want to adjust some thing sin your live according to this proportion in your life. You have to adjust some things in life to better yourself. You are simply transitioning from one place to another. You can't look at it like a drastic change. It isn't. You have laid the ground work in some form or fashion, now be ready to build off that foundation....thank you for taking a look into MY Thoughts...
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
I then went into some of my own self reflection..who am I portraying myself to be on these social networks?? When people backtrack me, what will they see?? I had to catch myself on that for real. I know who I am and what I would like to be seen as publicly. I have since having this conversation been much more attentive of what I am putting out on these networks. I still will be who I am. I just pay more attention as to what I am putting out there. I look at some people on these social networks and I think, man..is this who you are really as a person?? I have seen people on these social networks degrade people so publicly and I wonder do they ever get that "pause" to think what if someone did that to them?? What does this say about your character?? I was talking to a friend who laughed because she said all these Christians praising God on Sunday were talking 4 hours ago how they were "getting it" in the club or drinking til they pass out. She called them hypocrites. I didn't want to go that far but that is what they portray themselves to be. It's hard for me to defend them. People will make some critiques on your character by what is presented to them.
I really hope this message finds you well people. I just really feel we all need to be a little more conscious of what we are presenting ourselves to be on these networks. If someone just comes across on your profile on any of these networks...a valid question they can as is : Is this who you are?? Well.....is it? ......Thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts....
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
We need to find a new inner me. A new voice that will tell you just GET YOUR ASS UP and do it. I have my times when I switch voices but I know which one deserves listening. We all have our inner me's which prevent us from a lot of things like a new job, new relationships, new adventures, etc. Find the new inner you which just tells you: JUST DO IT!! Risk it all or dare to keep dreaming. Live the dream!!! Just get your feet moving. It will be best for you.....thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts....
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Well, this ploy to clearly exploit the man at a good time, Superbowl, totally backfired. I mean a Twitter #fail. here are some responses from women upset with Essence.
This Brotha don’t dig us, so why, pray tell, do we have to see his face staring back at us, on a magazine that celebrates US? This disappoints me. It’s an insult! Later for Reggie Bush and all the other Brothas who turn their back on the black woman once they are successful.”
“Why put a man who clearly prefers the bottom of the barrel of white women than a good black woman on your cover? Clearly, he has no love for the sisters. This magazine is supposed to empower black women not remind us of the disadvantages that we face in today’s society. Please don’t insult our intelligence.”
I understand why so many black women are up in arms about it. I will admit there are too many brothers who are leaving black women to venture out to white women. One of my followers of my blog said that, "Essence was irresponsible." I can understand why she is saying this about Essence. Now..here is where I leave my thoughts.....I am not a black woman but I don't really feel that Essence made a huge mistake. He is dating a white woman. When did one white woman become the sign he has no love for the sisters??? When has Reggie said, I will never date a sister?? What if this woman makes him truly happy?? Yes, I know he cheated but it's Reggie. I don't think anyone should be crucified for their preference in a PERSON. Damn race. In the end, it's all about the person. I will openly admit, I believe stick to your own color lines BUT I understand that at essence, it's the person who makes you happy. Also, let's be honest, many women love Reggie Bush and his physique. Let him drop that white girl and we aren't having this conversation. 6 months later they can throw him on the cover and no one will say anything.
She also said something else I found interesting..."what are we teaching are black men?" OK, I feel that we teach PEOPLE, back men included, be with who makes you happy. I think we assume it is implied that they are supposed to be with their own race. As a child, your parents may have made some reference to you about sticking to your own but was it taught?? No. Don't lie. I really don't think that is a conversation parents drive home. There was a time when interracial relationships just didn't happen. This is a new day and age. The whole implication that we are just supposed to be with your race....doesn't apply. If one feels that strongly about it, we need to say something. ....thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts....
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
I had a debate with one of my friends. She said that in two years of dating someone you know if you are going to marry them or not. I was like, ummm no. I just do not agree with that notion that two years is enough to know if you are going to marry someone. But I will say two years is long enough to get an idea are they potential to be married. Add-2 said it best in his song Martin and Gina."When it comes to relationship, in beginning you never meet the real them, just a representative." It is always so good in the beginning because everything is so fresh and fun. No real work has to be put in the relationship to make sure it survives. You guys are just feeling each other out which I think should last for at least a month. After about 6 months you two start somewhat investing time into each other. This is a period where one still feels hesitant to be themselves and speak out on what really annoys them. They are still at that stage where a little issue can be taken out of context with no strings to really keep them around.
Slowly more of the person is starting to come out. Their representative is not there as often and you are beginning to deal with he real them more often. Not to say you weren't dealing with them before but think about how much comfortable you become as time advances....think about it.....Feel me?? I thought you would. So more and more time passes and now you two have seen each other for who you are. A year in. Now after a year, every damn thing that annoyed you will begin to spew out over time. Leads to more arguments and disagreements. Now you could be one of those fools who wants to change them and manage how you feel the relationship should be heading. Now there are more and more arguments. One didn't know the other was like that.
Long story short, there are too many things to discover about a person to definitively say that after two years of dating we ARE going to be married. Like I said earlier, that is a sufficient amount of time to know if they have potential to be married. Also as I have been saying, there is more to learn about a person over time. Two years is plenty of time to keep them in mind to be potential but not to KNOW if you are to be wed in matrimony....Thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...
Thursday, January 21, 2010
It's sad how children are getting the sense of defeat at such an early age...Help our children out. it does not matter if they are yours or not. We all need to unite as one to get the task done. No getting around it....Do SOMETHING!!
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
I want to say it's not fair what is going on with them but all I know this is the will of God. I am really not able to understand the meaning of such suffering. I will be the first to admit that. this is 25+ aftershocks after a 7.3 Richter Scale earthquake. I want to say to God, "that's it!! They've had enough!!!" But I must understand his wisdom far surpasses mine. His vision is much farther than mine will ever be. I ask that God hold the families in Haiti and those who have family in Haiti who are facing more tragic problems daily.
This makes me put some things in perspective. There are some things I should never complain about. When this hits so close to home, it really makes me think that there are people who have it way worse than I ever will...I hope people truly understand that. I hope I gain more wisdom and insight from this horrid events..I pray my faith is strengthened. I hope many find God....thank you for taking a look into my My Thoughts...
Monday, January 18, 2010
I am an avid believer that Malcolm is to be respected and revered by many JUST LIKE MARTIN!!! Are we to forever criticize him because of his method? Just because he did not kowtow like Martin and took more of an aggressive approach, his underlying message was similar to Martin. People think he promoted violence which was not true. Look at one of his quotes: Be peaceful, be courteous, obey the law, respect everyone; but if someone puts his hand on you, send him to the cemetery. He did not tell anyone to disobey the law. He did not say go out and fight for your rights. He just believed that we all should take a stand against injustice. Think what our mothers told us. If someone hits you, hit them back!!! Did she promote violence? No. She did not believe that her son should be beat on by anyone. Some people thought because he didn't have a formal education he didn't promote intelligence. The man educated himself in prison. Not formally but more education than most blacks and whites at that time. One of his famous quotes: Education is the passport to the future, for tomorrow belongs to those who prepare for it today. White people felt that he didn't like whites. Untrue again!! Another quote: I believe in human beings, and that all human beings should be respected as such, regardless of their color. He didn't accept the way whites treated his people and he believed in a firm stand against oppression. "You can't separate peace from freedom because no one can be at peace unless he has his freedom." This is a line that struck me hard. If you break down some of his famous quotes you can understand where his heart was at essence.
I am a firm believer that Malcolm should be just as celebrated as Martin. He was a very influential component in the movement of the 50s and 60s. You can not go through that time period without knowing Malcolm X. There is no way you can separate him from that time period and his accomplishments for Blacks. I wish the world would wake up and honor him the way that he should....thank you for taking a look in to My Thoughts...
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
This really hurts me because i am Haitian myself. I have been to Haiti on a couple of occasions. Is the country poor? Yes?. But at the same time it is very beautiful. I was so excited at the notion of possibly going back this summer. This proud country and people have been afflicted to a point I don't know when it will bounce back. I have family members who i have still not heard from at this point. This is eating me up on the inside. All I can do is pray and assist in any way possible. My parents came from this country. They have instilled in me Haitian traditions that I will one day pass on to my children. Please give others the opportunity to one day do the same.
I am asking that you help to in any way that you can. PLEASE DONATE TO THE CAUSE. This is a very TRAGIC situation. Put yourselves aside for a moment and be willing to help another person out right now.!!
— To donate $10 to the American Red Cross, text Haiti to 90999. The amount will be added to your next phone bill. The organization is also accepting donations through its International Response Fund, www.redcross.org
— To donate $5 to Wyclef Jean’s Haitian Yele charity, text 501501. The money will be added to your next phone bill.
— To find out how to help the International Rescue Committee, visit www.theIRC.org or call toll free, 1-877-REFUGEE.https://secure.unicefusa.org/site/Donation2?df_id=6680&6680.donation=form1
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Monday, January 11, 2010
That's all I have to say about that much...welcome back to My Thoughts...