Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Real Love Songs...Where did they go?

Who remembers the days of Boy II Men "On Bended Knee?" Dru Hill "Never Make a Promise?" Eric Benet "Spend My Life With You?" Real songs. Real R&B music. These songs spoke of true love. These songs warmed the heart. These were all songs that you could play that would remind you of that significant other. I remember when Never Make a Promise came out. I was really too young to understand it but I knew it spoke of a man really loving his woman. I later grew to really appreciate this song for what it was trying to convey. It conveyed true symptoms of a true love. One of my favorite all time songs of love will be 112- Crazy Over You. That could potentially be a wedding song for me. Let's look at a couple lyrics. "And now that I have you babe I promise I'll never leave Cuz you are the only one that makes my love complete... " How often are we hearing these words now? Now we are talking about serving people "Papers" than talking about marriage. What happened to the music...??? My Thoughts are....

Let's break it down. Look at music now. We have no real male artists who speaks of real love. Most male artists now are so sexually driven. A popular song out now is by R.Kelly-Pregnant. "Girl, You make me wanna get you pregnant." Don't tell me that shit is flattering because it's not. That passes as a compliment now?? That passes for telling your woman she is beautiful?? C'mon Son. It is really hitting home that he just wants to have sex with you. No mention of his feelings in the song! No mention of what you mean to him in the song! I'm all for songs that make a woman feel sexy but damn, this is all that's out now. I just caught wind of a song today that says, " Girl your face ain't all that but your booty makes up for that?? My gosh, I hope women don't take that as a compliment. He basically said you're ugly. Most songs are driven off pure fantasy. Instead of what warms the heart, most are thinking what gets the pussy wet. Why is that??? My Thoughts are...

We live in a very, very sexual culture. Love is still existent but not as prevalent as it used to be. A girl giving her body away used to mean a lot. A girl giving her body away now can just be for kicks and giggles i.e. the FAMU sex tape. They aren't the first to do it but my gosh. "This is college life." Fucking bust downs....OK I'm back. That tape is an example of how we just use sex now for fun. If love is not a thing of issue as it used to be, I don't blame artists for playing their music down to a level that solely promotes a woman's or man's fantasy. Love songs aren't what people really want to hear nowadays, well this newer generation. Now we want songs that speak of people touching you here, sucking you there, and licking you wherever...R&B is nothing more than just music to get the party started in your pants.

I really see no hope of music returning to the point where love will be the focal point. I don't see music returning to the point where certain LOVE songs are what sells the most. Best song right now on the Bil board charts for R&B??? Robin Thicke Sex Therapy...no shock...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...

7 comments:

Ms. Foxdale said...

Very good piece my friend. There definately is a lack of LOVE now of days, but a lot of it stems back to what's going on in the homes of the youth. With this generation it's very common for individuals (esp. in the black community) to come from broken homes where they aren't able to witness true love shared between their parents. What they learn about relationships comes from what they pickup off the streets. This was a problem for previous generations, but hit has become an epidemic with this one due to the steady increase of single parents and divorce rates. The music is most def a reflection of the times.

Anonymous said...

I have to agree. I love the songs that have a meaning. Like jesse powell "YOU", Case "Happily Ever After". These songs make a person feel good and if you cannot express how u feel u just listen and it explains everything. Today music is just not the same. Robin thicke I can say sings from the soul. Even though his song is titled Sex Therapy his voice and his deliverance does not seem as if he is singing to all the women BUT just to his woman. This song is more intimate rather than raunchy. FYI I so dislike that pregnant song by R. Kelly its just too much for me.

Anonymous said...

As always you know I read your blogs and Imma comment on this one.. R.Kelly as an example doesn't count. He has always writing songs about sex and how good it is... Dont be surprised about his songs and lyrics. He's either a gospel song or a sex song. There's no in between with him, lol...You either get to humping or get to praying with him.

However, I TOTALLY agree with about the quality of music... I listen to ALOT of music, especially old school and 80s/90s R&B and I would be the first one to say that the stuff people listen to now a days is garbage. I feel sorry for the new generation because they dont even realize how bad they really have it. Most of the songs theyre listening to today are being sampled from older songs and turned into garbage. What I will say is this. R & B songs did every often reference sex but the difference between then and now was that they some how related it back to loving that person so much that they wanted to please them during sex. Whereas, now a days it's just sex.. I LOVE 112 but if you listen to Peaches and Cream, Sweet Love (my favorite song by them), and a couple other tracks they hit that sexual mark too.

Compared to other countries (with the exclusion of most third world countries) America really isnt the sex driven. The problem here is that we're super hypocritical about sex in our society.. the media in Europe and other countries is super sexual but they take religion out of the equation;whereas, we are conflicted over here because of religious standards.

I was watching a p-square video (or maybe something else from Africa) and their dancing in the video was SUPER sexual (did I like it, yes, lol) but they didnt need sexually lyrics because they dancing was enough... My point is sex is EVERYwhere now a days and people need to just teach their children their worth (especially young women) and when that starts happening the music with shift back to quality music...People only put out what sells.

Peace,

Chanettia

Anonymous said...

sorry for the grammatical errors, chanettia.

Handsome_soul said...

I beleieve music have become way too oversexed. Music has become way too much about getting a nut in my opinion. Old school music promoted more love and could lead to sex but at least it sounded less like porno in music.

@anonymous I agree about Robin Thicke BUT I feel he made that song to sell and not so much to HIS woman. That's just My Thought on the situation.

@Chanettia I already know about that peaches and cream. LOL...got a few parties started for me...lol..Silk was a good group. Sexual too.

Anonymous said...

I completely, agree with your take on the state of rnb today. A lot of it is just sex to a beat. There aren't anymore groups out today like the ones of the new jack swing era (i.e. Boyz II Men...New Edition). I'm not saying I don't listen to today's RnB, but it doesn't get anything more than radio play in the car. There are very few artists I would invest any money in as far as actually purchasing their music nowadays but there are still some good ones out there. They just don't get as much limelight as others

Chinye said...

Like you mentioned and referenced, music is about selling and making a profit, so most musicians now will play and create songs towards a certain market. Its unfortunate that the profitable music market is driven and reinforced by sex so artists sex themselves up to sell and make money. I can't really hate on that hustle but I do feel as though artists should have more of a moral compass and think about what it does to sell sex to the public, because I think many take what artists are selling and translate that into their real lives, instead of looking at it as an 'act'.

I'm a late 80's baby which means I grew up in the 90's listening to sexualized music as well as the proclaimed thug life of Rap. I won't say that sex wasn't a part of what I heard, but I definitely heard more of a feeling between two people. I listened to musicians that were enamored over a whole person, rather than how fast their bootay was shaking in the club or how much money he looked like he had. I think its sad that artist will sell themselves like that, but like you mentioned oversexualization is what will get their songs on the radio, and at the end of the day that is what matters. Now as for me, I'm perfectly content will busting out some Boyz II Men or Brian McKnight when I want to listen to some authentic R&B. Good topic btw!!