Saturday, October 30, 2010

I Wonder Do Black People Get It....



I know this is supposed to be a joke. I can't lie, I found it funny but at what expense is the laughter? It is things like this which is why white people go hard on the President. We have no respect for him in our own culture. I know everyone will say, this is a joke and it's meant to be funny. It's little things like this that white America uses against us. Black people don't want to admit it but damn near everything we do is under scrutiny. Racism is still out there. If you want to be blind, be blind but it exists all around us. I looked at the comments below for the video and this one person @LILMTJ1 got blasted for comments informing people of how this makes people and the president look. They called LILMTJ1 uppity, told them to lighten up, and so on. SWEETCADYK87 said something that basically sums up this post, " Wake the fuck up "BLACK AMERICA" the joke is on us!" Truth. The joke is on us and we perpetuate the joke more and more as we fail to see the sad undertone of this video. Obama has carried himself as a man of humility, integrity, distinction, pride, and principle from his campaign and throughout his presidency. Yet, we belittle all that by delighting in a video that portrays him as arrogant, a weed-smoking, reckless, an adulterer, and so on. No this one video won't ruin his career but inform me where it helps..........hmmm????.......exactly....nothing to say.......




This white guy made me upset by delighting in the mockery of our president. But I couldn't get mad at him when I see that there are a lot of BLACK people who delight in the mockery of our president. We can complain all we want on how the media treats Obama, but are BLACK people any better? Blacks minimize TOO OFTEN!!! They get mad when people of THEIR own color take this seriously but if a white man started talking, now it's a big deal. Separation in our own race. 2PAC said this in his song Changes: " We gotta start making changes, learn to see me as a brother instead of two distant strangers." We have to come together in union to help support each other and uplift each other. We can't play on two different sides of the field. One mind, one voice. White people should never get a chance to be amused at the expense of our leader and "solidarity." I could go on and on...but I will cut it off there..thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...

Saturday, October 23, 2010

My Thoughts on Black Marriage Negotiations and Black Dating

These two recent videos of black dating have really sparked my interest. There have been a lot of opinions from black men and black women. Most brothers who I have talked to have all had the same general consensus, the videos are telling the truth!! Here are some comments. My friend Brandon said, " ‎*clapping hands* Whoever are creating these clips I'm giving them a round of applause. They speak the truth." My friend Chris said, " I'm not saying that they all talk like this but a lot of them are reading from the same handbook and it's scary." Marcus said, " The worst part is that there are women out here like that and they bring absolutely nothing to the table and expect a guy to bring everything."

My Thoughts
are...I agree with most of what the videos have to say. Ladies I am a strong advocate for you but I will not ever say that you all are not an enigma to deal with at times. A few things I will touch on in the film. She eludes to what she wants in a man but can't find it when it is sitting right there in front of her. I am so tired of Black women saying there are no good Black men out there. That is a a lie damnit! there are plenty of great Black men in the world but unfortunately Black women tend to look elsewhere. I have seen too many Black women who have aspiring futures in front of them but date someone who doesn't have half the potential she does. He doesn't share the same belief. She thinks she can "help inspire" him get his life together. Let's call a spade a spade. You're trying to change him. THAT WON'T HAPPEN. Then when they get treated improperly, there are no good Black men. Look in the mirror!!! Listen to Jazmine Sullivan I'm in Love with Another Man to see if I'm lying. She depicts the Black man that a lot of women are looking for but yet she still turns her back on him. I know most will say follow your heart, and I agree, but she had a great man that most black women want and she still betrayed him. Another thing I found interesting was the fact when talking about submission, she believe everything in the Bible but this. SMH. In my opinion, I think women feel that they are losing a part of themselves when they submit to a man. But if they opened up their eyes, they would see that man is willing to submit to them too. If he loves you the way you want, then your submission should be out of love because if he is a good man, he will treat you like the queens you are. I hate to say it like this, but White women, in my opinion, are better at submitting to their husbands than Black women which could be a reason why they have a much higher marriage rate. A man won't marry a woman who won't submit. If he does, he is a fool.
Another thing I have to address, is the declination of sex in the relationship she speaks of in the video. If women do this, they are treading the waters. You can't go from 4 times a week to 4 times a month in an instant. He's got needs you were willing to satisfy at one point. You know your man. You know when he needs his medicine lol. One more thing that pissed me off about this video. When the man was willing to submit to her stipulations, he is weak. It's like, what the heck do you want?!?!?! That is a man who sees the potential in starting a future with you that he will put his pride aside and try to make it work. (FYI:There is no room for egos in a good relationship) But he gets called weak. Well, fuck you!!! Sorry for the language but I had to say it.


In video number 2, we have a girl who starts off the video with breaking up with a man on the path to success. Once again we have a good black man who is about to do something with his life and his woman is asking for some unreal things. She goes down a list of guys she wants and all have extreme flaws. My point in bringing up that list is to highlight that some Black women have a very poor selection in men. My favorite was the Lebron James situation. A man who won't commit. I have met so many women who have ambiguous titles with the men they deal with. There is no real commitment to them but yet they still want to be with him. She can date him for months and still no commitment. She can give him all the things a good woman could give and still no commitment. Rather than get with with a good brother who is willing to commit, they vest their time in that dead end situation. Another thing that I had to touch was the crazy accusations when a man won't fight for her. Look, if you're not worth fighting for, what's the point in wasting time. She made herself look deplorable but gets mad when a man won't fight to save the relationship. If you were worth fighting for, trust me, that man would bug you to the point of insanity. Another thing I had to touch on was the social network stalking. My gosh. This one goes for everybody. We can not stalk our mates on social networks. That isn't right. Remember, your mate has other friends besides you of BOTH sexes. Just because you're in the picture doesn't mean he or she drops their friends. Who knows, in a week or two, you may not be around. The last thing I have to touch on. STOP LETTING TV DETERMINE YOUR GOOD RELATIONSHIP. Half of what you see is true in determining what will work in a good relationship. Take the time to know your man and let you two determine a good relationship.

Look, I don't despise the Black woman. I love the Black woman. The darker the better lol. No offense to the caramel macchiato sisters. I just won't bite my tongue at things I see as true. I have mad love for the sisters of this world and I always will. But I must stand up for the brothers...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts....

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Do We Hate Our Women???

When I tell you love black women...I mean it. I love their style, their walk, their pride, their strength, their smell....you get the picture. I especially love the chocolate sisters. Chocolate sisters are definitely my weakness. Much love to the light skinned women but ehhhh....get your weight up lol. I think black women are strong. They deal with so much from the outside. They have two things working against them which makes it hard for them to be respected as they should. 1. They're Black. 2. They're Women. It's hard enough being a woman in America. Even white women still can't get an even break. BUT to BLACK on top of that is an even harder mountain to climb at time. In some points of view, they are at the bottom of the food chain. Women, as a whole, have it hard enough getting equal treatment. You know it's rough when white women don't want to include you in the struggle. IT'S A SHAME TO SEE THAT BLACK MEN TREAT BLACK WOMEN LIKE THEY ARE AT THE BOTTOM OF THE FOOD CHAIN TOO....

I was riding home with my frat brothers listening to a song and it appalled me that we are the only race to speak so low of our women publicly. We degrade them in our music terribly. We talk about them as they are worthless. When an artist is saying the word "bitch" in a song..He;s not talking about every race. I don't want to hear that. He knows he is talking about a black chick. I was happy to hear that Spelman had a problem with that song. Good for them. As black men, we are doing a horrible job of displaying the best sides of black women. When we are calling them video hoes and portraying them as objects more than women, we are hurting their cause for equal rights. We are also carrying on a legacy of black women being treated with such contempt, in OUR OWN RACE ESPECIALLY!!! I was listening to "Keep Ya Head Up" by 2Pac. The lyrics that got to me were, "I wonder why we take from our women/ Why we rape our women, do we hate our women?" I have to ask..Do we hate our women??? What is it that keeps lack men belittling them instead of uplifting the, The little negative things that we do to black women give more life to negative things that other races will adopt. Going back to the display of black women in videos, black women have a great shape. Black women have some of the sexiest curves known to man. Instead of parading them around as a women to be used and disposed of after, parade her around in the video as someone to be adored. I know someone will be reading, it's just a video but like I said, it's the little things that we give life to.

My next favorite line from that song from Pac is, "I think it's time to kill for our women/Time to heal our women, be real to our women/And if we don't we'll have a race of babies/ That will hate the ladies, that make the babies." He is so true. Black men need to do more to protect and uphold the image of black women. They need to do everything they can to protect her in every possible. I'm hard on black women but I am down for them. I understand that some weren't protected or guided by influential black men in their lives. The treatment that they may receive from black men later can hugely affect their mindset. We need to protect their image too for those who come behind us. This cycle of women being disrespected should not be passed on to the next generation. The status of women cannot continue to be diminished year by year. Black women make so many great strides too. They are graduating at higher rates than black men. They are gaining access to positions black men are still fighting for in life. How can we, as black men, continue to degrade them if they are doing so much more than us? We need to celebrate their achievements and everything else which makes them great...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...