Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Perfection...

Guest Post...by E.P...take a look into Her Thoughts...


Recently I purchased the new Tank "Now or Never" CD (might I add that if you're into classic R&B then it's definitely worth the buck). There's a song on there called 'Celebration' that features Drake. The song describes how Tank wants to celebrate all the things he loves about his woman with some romantic time alone. Overall, the song is a hit. It's pretty much on repeat in my car when I take a ride :)

The bar that stuck out to me the most was when Drake said "They say real girls ain't neva perfect, perfect girls ain't real."

You know what's so crazy about this? Mostly EVERY song or rap nowadays about a lady gives this message to its' listeners. In a nutshell, don't sweat the fake because we see right through it. Ok.... so you say this, but do you really mean it? I mean, let's be realistic. Anyone who will say looks don't matter is telling the lie of all lies. The first thing that attracts you to someone is their physical appearance. From there, you begin to unveil their personality, values, etc.

So if "real girls ain't neva perfect" and "perfect girls ain't real", then why waste time with the fake perfect ones? I mean, you already know that the alluring sight of perfection (long weave, fake eyelashes, booty pads, padded bras) is going to lead to disappointment, then why even try? Why does the girl that is fake from head to toe (literally) get the celebration versus the all natural woman?

My conclusion.... you don't want to be challenged. You want someone who looks awesome next to you, but treats your friends and family like strangers. You want someone who spends most of her time trying to look good for everyone, but you. You want someone who enjoys spending money even though she has a bedroom in her mom's house and no source of income on her own. True some women enjoy playing the dress up with additions, but most women are proud of the fact that their significant other doesn't look like he's seen a ghost when they wake up in the morning. Just an observation....

Like it, love it, hate it.... just listen...

Friday, December 17, 2010

Sisters...SPEAK UP AND SPEAK OUT!!!

I'm writing this blog as more of the appeal to my sisters of color. It is your time to shine. It is your time to make some changes in the struggles of the Black woman. I look on TV and I look around in the media and there isn't voice to campaign the plight of the forever struggling, forever, ignored, forever unjustly treated by society. Even in policy making for Blacks my sisters are slighted. It's a shame too because Black women are doing their thing in all fields of academia. Policies are made for Blacks but really for Black men, not Black women. Yet, it is our Black sisters who excelling in the fields of academics and in the professional atmosphere. While Black men are being locked up, Black women are graduating. Congratulations my sisters but someone needs to speak up and speak out. I don't mean an Oprah figure who hides behind her money and hear me out. I know she has built schools for kids in Africa and donates to various charities but when has she really spoken up CONSISTENTLY for the Black woman? What can she pillar herself on in regard to the plight of the Black woman? I know she had the Angel Network, which was amazing, but I still can't look at her as a pillar for Black Women. There needs to be more and more voices for Black women. Sister this is your time to take over.
I love the direction that you are heading in but overall there needs to be more done. A lot more done. We have the young black women in this day who are getting pregnant to early because of the lack of guidance. We have a lot of young black women who are dropping out of school. We have a lot of young black women who are prioritizing all the things that keep them hindered in society. Sisters...It's your time to teach those behind you how to be persistent and be successful. Sisters who are college graduates with kids, talk to younger sisters with kids and let them know that they need to keep going and advancing themselves. Sisters give these young girls guidance in what they need to make their priority. Black women need your voices and your work now. There are some influential Black women who are never heard of and do miraculous things. Be their voice too. Speak up and speak put about these women! The future of Black women need to know now. Speak up! I could go on and on but all I'm saying is be the voice to instill pride in the voices of tomorrow...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...