Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Is 2 YearsLong Enough??


I had a debate with one of my friends. She said that in two years of dating someone you know if you are going to marry them or not. I was like, ummm no. I just do not agree with that notion that two years is enough to know if you are going to marry someone. But I will say two years is long enough to get an idea are they potential to be married. Add-2 said it best in his song Martin and Gina."When it comes to relationship, in beginning you never meet the real them, just a representative." It is always so good in the beginning because everything is so fresh and fun. No real work has to be put in the relationship to make sure it survives. You guys are just feeling each other out which I think should last for at least a month. After about 6 months you two start somewhat investing time into each other. This is a period where one still feels hesitant to be themselves and speak out on what really annoys them. They are still at that stage where a little issue can be taken out of context with no strings to really keep them around.
Slowly more of the person is starting to come out. Their representative is not there as often and you are beginning to deal with he real them more often. Not to say you weren't dealing with them before but think about how much comfortable you become as time advances....think about it.....Feel me?? I thought you would. So more and more time passes and now you two have seen each other for who you are. A year in. Now after a year, every damn thing that annoyed you will begin to spew out over time. Leads to more arguments and disagreements. Now you could be one of those fools who wants to change them and manage how you feel the relationship should be heading. Now there are more and more arguments. One didn't know the other was like that.
Long story short, there are too many things to discover about a person to definitively say that after two years of dating we ARE going to be married. Like I said earlier, that is a sufficient amount of time to know if they have potential to be married. Also as I have been saying, there is more to learn about a person over time. Two years is plenty of time to keep them in mind to be potential but not to KNOW if you are to be wed in matrimony....Thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...