Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Son/ Daughter...Let's Have a Talk...

One of my friends just left a post on her blog saying that people need to stop "Dating Down" I wholeheartedly agree. People do date down way too often. But I am not writing to beat that home. I left a comment saying I think that's a conversation parents need to be really having with their children. It got me thinking..all the mistakes I have made in relationships, did my folks ever really TALK to me about it? They talked to me about it when the situation presented itself. Most parents will talk about the "birds ad the bees" but nothing too much about the relationship. They tend to say things when we make mistakes like " I raised you better than that!" But the question they should ask is "Did I ever talk to my child to prepare them for this?" Parents say things to their daughters like "Don't get pregnant!" Simple comment but where is the explanation as to why shouldn't they get pregnant. What could be the disadvantages of getting pregnant at an early age s a conversation to have? Not just saying, "Don't get pregnant." Will some of those kids have kids? Of course. You can't save them all but you can at least drop the bug in their ear to make them want to be more careful.
Fathers should talk with their sons as to why we can't treat our women like they aren't women. Mothers need to talk to their daughters about love and why shouldn't they just fall for the 3 words to get them on their backs. Parents need to talk to their children as to why they shouldn't go running for love and they should be patient. It would spare the kids a lot of heartache in the future. Because kids will run to friends first who don't know anything about healthy relationships and what it takes to sustain them. Parents need to have life talks with their children about these topics. I would rather talk to my child about these things early in life than to have my child deal with a tough situation that they aren't somewhat prepared to handle. The next best part, it will create a atmosphere that I can talk to my parents about anything. Instead of seeking aimless advice from friends, they can talk to people who really love them and have their child's best interest in mind...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...