Friday, December 30, 2011

Blame Michael?? Blame Nike?? Be Honest...

Local activists and ministers are taking on one of the world's top sports brands. They're calling on Nike and Michael Jordan to change the way they sell the highly sought after Air Jordan sneakers.

Let me start off saying that when I saw this I was disgusted. I was taken back by the notion. I was appalled that people would have the AUDACITY to blame Nike and Michael Jordan for their own shortcomings in their neighborhoods. To even insinuate that Michael Jordan is part of the reason for the felonious behavior over a shoe is egregious! He is not to blame! You cannot blame him for releasing a shoe. Where is his crime in giving people a product they apparently crave? Did some violence spurt in 96 when the shoe was released? I'm sure. To this extent though of malicious hysteria? I highly doubt it. But do you know what's changed? Society. Standards. Values. And Nike is to blame for being exactly what they have always been? A business? How exactly did Nike market this shoes as well that caused violent behavior amongst people? A young man was killed for this shoe and that was very, very sad but you can't blame two entities for being exactly what they have been for years.Michael Jordan is a business man and Nike is a world class business. They were doing what they have been known to do for years and that is making money.
The problem really stems from the change in society, standards, and values. These things that used to be such a pillar of prosperity and hope are now turning into pillars of shame and derision. There was a time people used appreciate truly the labor of there hands. That still exists but now people want things in such an instant in any way they can get it, for some. People are losing the appreciation of working hard to raise enough money for something that you really desired. As time passes, more robberies and murder are taking place because the covet for these things are pushing people to immorality with out shame. The sad part is these activists who are calling on Nike and Jordan need to realize the problems is from within and is being perpetuated by family members and other forces in society. Lets' look at Alley Boy and his lyrics  in his song, which I can't believe broke MTV's rotation, Rob Me a Nigga:  

Shit can get into a nigga head when his digits low

Make you wanna send one of your friends to a funeral


Maybe me & him was never friends in the first place


Donít mean a thang cause share the same birthplace


Same city same hood but we down to kill each other for a dollar


Cause we want it in the worst way


Money talk & bullshit could walk a marathon


And I ainít scared of getting killed cause I'm getting mine



Who is at fault? Nike wrote this? Jordan is endorsing these thing? No people in society are doing a the job on their own! We live in a society where Social Darwinism is being taken to the extent that I'm very sure no one wished it has become. Violence over materialism? Sad. But people can't blame a responsibility that first falls on the community. Raise people with values. Raise people with a sense of personal pride knowing that a shoes like this shouldn't lead you to violence for it. Values have taken such a downturn in these communities as well. You don't fight in public over something so meaningless. Fight because it's a cause that means something like protecting your family. Fight for something that won't shame you, your family, or the community that raised you. And in that lies the problem too. Lack of values means a lack of shame perpetuated by you, your family, and your community. Lets' just be honest..We are to blame. Be honest with ourselves and put ideas together to re-integrate what used to be pillars of prosperity and pride...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts..

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Rehabilitated: A Made-Up Word

Rehabilitation Officer: Ellis Boyd Redding: your file says you've served 40 years of a life sentence. Do you feel you've been rehabilitated?
Red: Rehabilitated?... Well, now, let me see. You know, I don't have any idea what that means.
Rehabilitation Officer: Well, it means that you're ready to rejoin society, to—
Red: I know what you think it means, sonny. To me it's just a made-up word. A politician's word, so that young fellas like yourself can wear a suit and a tie and have a job. What do you really wanna know? Am I sorry for what I did?
Rehabilitation Officer: Well, are you?
Red: Cause not a day goes by I don't feel regret. Not because I'm in here; or because you think I should. I look back on the way I was then: a young, stupid kid who committed that terrible crime. I want to talk to him. I want to try to talk some sense to him, tell him the way things are. But I can't. That kid's long gone and this old man is all that left. I gotta live with that. Rehabilitated? It's just a bullshit word. So go ahead and stamp your forms, sonny, and stop wasting my time. Because to tell you the truth, I don't give a shit.

I was having a conversation with my best friend about this topic and we were probably depressing ourselves talking about does prison really serve as a medium to rehabilitate its inmate. Sadly we came to the conclusion that none of these facilities used to house offenders are made for the purpose of rehabilitation. It is a made up word used to sound good in the ears of others who have taken no real stake in the justice system. It's an idea that has no real evidence to show for it. The rehabilitation idea is more like a scared straight experience. making a person feel so low about themselves and revoking their right to be human is their idea of rehabilitation.
Think about it...what happens in prisons just from even watching TV or movies? Or personal knowledge. You see a person walk in there. First they are stripped of their identity and authenticity. They no longer have a name unless some one calls them by their last name, When you look them up or call them, they are known as inmate XYZ. They are no longer known as Daniel, Rick, Diane, etc. They are nothing but a number. Then they do more to do that. They give you the first and last outfit that you will be able to wear for a period of time. So whatever style that you had before prison is over. Aside from a few tattoos or body marks, your wardrobe is that suit that they give you.
This has already been taken from you but they affirm they take your liberty by telling you how to conduct yourself and when to do this and that. They tell you when to use the bathroom, shower, eat, etc. This system is doing more to make you feel lower about yourself than they even probably expected. They are probably doing more to damage the psyche more than to reform it.
They are now letting you get a degree in prison. This is a great initiative! There are some people who see the error in their ways and want t come out of prison much better than the way they went in. They want to make something more of themselves than what they have become as this point in their lives. This is my issue though. The degree is good in principle. What about when they want to get a job even after acquiring these accreditation? They have to report as a former felon. They have to go through the awry details as to why they were incarcerated to a person looking over it who probably has no compassion or no belief that this person has made a change in their life. Also while they are out, they have to report to a parole officer who has to check on them still making them feel like a prisoner. They have to check in constantly for a period of time.
A lot of these past mistakes will be treated like the stain on your shirt that will never come off no matter how many times you wash it because no one wants to give you any detergent. Meaning  no one will give you what you need to make your life clean again even when you're trying to renew it. They won't expunge a record if they feel they don't have to. They won't give you a job. They won't do any of these things. Then when you get caught back up in the adverse behavior that landed you in a predicament they feel you haven't learned your lesson and treat you twice as bad.
The lesson is the justice system has done NOTHING to ensure that these people who are trying to make change will get a fair opportunity to be rehabilitated sending back into the same stuff that failed you. You'll never be rehabilitated in America...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...

Sunday, November 13, 2011

When Did Marriage become a Joke??

I think that marriage is on the worst kind of decline in America. It is staggering to think divorce rates are almost at 50%. That is probably not totally accurate but from research performed that is still somewhat correct. It is said that the divorce rate is 50% for first marriages, 67% for second marriages and 74% for third marriages. What the heck is that? Three times and the rate is higher? I would think you have it figured out by this point. But sadly it is more disparaging the third time around.
First let's look at common divorce problems. People at times are in love with the idea of marriage before they think about what it takes to stay married. People want to say in their lives that I got married and we are going to be so happy but tend to forget that a marriage is work! Yes, you were in a relationship together but that is still not a marriage. Some will say well we lived together beforehand. Well, true but cohabitation is like a contract that is suitable as long as needs are met. You can just leave with no consequence (unless your ex is crazy). Marriage, YOU BETTER try and make that work. Think of the shame of having to tell people that your marriage is failing. Think of the court systems. Think of having to deal with backlash after backlash. Think of the joint bank accounts!! Another reason is because people don't really talk about their expectations of each other. You can't wing a marriage like a relationship. You have to be upfront with each other to know can we move in the same direction. Another reason, people don't really pick mates that are truly compatible with our core beliefs. we try to sweep things under a rug or overlook some things but in some way or another these beliefs will surface. These beliefs can cause a big uproar.
The list can go on and on. I just hope that when people get married, they think about some of the issues above before they dive head first into a COMMITMENT like getting married. Get yourself together before it is that time to make such a huge step. The failure of marriage is depreciating the value of it...thanks for taking a look into My Thoughts...

Friday, September 23, 2011

If Not Now, When??

Simple words but but very hard to absorb at times. We always are looking to put things on hold for one reason or another. We always want to wait things out to see how thing swill play out for one reason or another. Could it be out of the fear of knowing if we did x, we may never get to y? That possibly could be so but the key thing to think about is: How will we ever know if we don't actively try? How will we truly confront the problem if we are scared of what the solution will cost us? What are we waiting on to find all that out? How can we know how great we will be when we are settling for doing just fine? As I convey this message to some of you, I am thinking even now about my own life. I think about the times I have gotten in my own way and ways I am still in my own way. Frustrating as hell to me when I stop and think about it.
There are lies that we have allowed ourselves to become truths to us that hold us back. Are we ready to confront them? If not now, when? Do it today. I have been running from a truth that I myself am making a commitment to confront. I feel that if I confront this truth now and make some hard, hard decisions I gain freedom. Freedom and more hope to a greater future for myself. I can't out it off any longer. Time waits for no one. I get older every minute. I need to be getting wiser every minute as well.
People are afraid to try because of a fear of failure so they wait and wait hoping that things will work out for the best. When will you find out? If not now, when? Fail now because the wisdom that you acquire is one step closer to you being successful. You don't focus on the failure, you focus on all the things you're doing right. Believe me, you'll be doing some things right. There are people who are faced with making hard decisions today who need to make them. If not now, when? I won't lie and say it's easy because the decision will probably be not. It may be one of the hardest decisions you will ever make in your life. It could be a career change, it could be a relationship change, it could be to live your dreams instead of the career you've made, or it could be in regards to your health. Whatever it could be, it probably will be one of the most difficult decisions you will make in your life to this point. But it is necessary to do something!! Waiting to act on a problem you're facing could be a wasted minute of your life that you could be doing something to fix it! Do it now. You probably will get your feelings hurt 100 times before you breakthrough. But that one moment of victory makes all those moments of defeat that much more rewarding because you didn't allow yourself to be broken...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...

Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Challenge Yourself!

"When the tough get going, the going gets..." That will vary for each of you. You want to say you will be strong and some of you will be. You want to say you'll overcome the challenges ahead of you and some of you won't. I truly hope that you meet all challenges head on without fear of failure, ridicule, or embarassment. Meet thise challenges head on with confidence, pride, and ambition. Meet those challenges and be willing to work hard at it. Don't be afraid of what anyone has to say about your capabilities. They don't know you as well as you know yourself. They are not running the race for you.
When you feel yourself slipping away, concentrate and knuckle down. Concentrate and get back in the fight. You take a whooping before you start dishing out the whooping. Have a resolve that says I will not be defeated period! I will not let anything take this victory away from me. Challenge yourself to show yourself something that you didn't even know was there. Challenge yourself to show others why they should never bet against you. Some people will call you stupid. Some people will call you foolish. Some of your closest friends and family will not support you. So what? You are living for yourself, and God, and they cannot live your life for you. When the going gets tough, you get tougher! ...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts..

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Brothers and Sisters...We Aren't Doing Enough..

" The number of black officials elected has risen from 100 in 1964 to more than 9000 today. The number of African Americans who were in Congress 30 years ago was about 5; today it is over 40, an 800 percent increase. But have Blacks experienced 800 percent increase in real power? It hasn't happened. So I think the emphasis of this liberal notion of social change by working solely within the established electoral system is fatally flawed." Manning Marable. I came across this quote and it hit me. Not that this quote opened some new light on me I didn't know before but it reaffirmed one thought: We Aren't Doing Enough.

I was watching Family Guy last night where Brian and Stewie came across the place of Gettysburg, an infamous battleground in the Civil War. They run up on a black guy and Stewie says: "You're Welcome." he was implying as in the black guy should be feeling gratitude for what the war did for Blacks. The Black guy says at this point we should be even. Stewie says not yet. Sadly enough, we are not even. If you look at this world now, we have made back slides in certain ways more than we have made strides ahead. Don't get me wrong, we have made some great, great steps forward but is it enough? With all the advantages that we have in this day and age, what real power have Blacks truly acquired? have we seen an increase in power? Please do not reference Obama. Obama is good man but in some ways, he was the best of a bad situation. I'm not saying he wasn't qualified. I'm not saying the man isn't trying to make some things happen in his position. He is fighting daily. What about us? What about Blacks? Are we fighting to gain more ground in America or are we slowly backsliding? I had to write an essay that pained me to write one day. the topic was: In 100 years, will there be any black men in college? 50 years ago you scoff at this notion because Black men were trying to be progressive. They were fighting for their lives. 50 years later, it's easier to believe this. And I know some of it is the government locking up our people. But let's really pay attention to the lifestyles we are actively participating in ourselves. We are killing ourselves faster than the Ku Klux Klan. Blacks are becoming a poison to Blacks. We are failing ourselves. We aren't doing enough in our community to look after one another. Back in the day we went to war for things that were important like education, peace, and fair treatment. Did the dream die with the deaths of Martin? Malcolm? Fred Hampton? We are becoming complacent in mediocrity. We are doing just enough. And yes, there are good, hard working Blacks who do so much to advance our race to this day. But are they receiving the backing by our own people to grow that into something spectacular? I think we have taken steps back than we have forward. The economy sucks now and they are cutting fund from programs a lot of poor blacks are benefiting from. My gosh people, we can't let ourselves be put in a position to be toppled. We have to hold firm and do more to gain our voice! Do more to gain our respect! Do more to gain our power!...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...

Monday, June 6, 2011

Dream Killers...Why does It have to be Our own People??

It pains me to say this but it seems like some Black people are turning into good dream killers. We are becoming a cancer to the advancement of our own people. I don't mean all either because there are some of us who do such a tremendous job in uplifting and pushing our own race. But we have a lot who are so indifferent about the value of human life, even their own. They live by words like "only God can judge me" or "I don't give a f*ck." It just seems like they don't acre about others around them too. Their life may not be amounting to what it could so they are content with cutting down the lives of others. Black people kill dreams not just violently but even psychologically. Parents who won't support their kids dreams or are indifferent about their growth. Some people in the neighborhood who tease and harass those who want to advance themselves. People in the neighborhood who tell others that there is no hope despite which way you turn.
Their words and actions psychologically imprison us at times. I look at a killing that happened in Chicago at the lake front. Typically, the lake front is a beautiful place to take your mate, chill out, enjoy the breeze, gaze at the moon on the water, etc. I get weary about ever being at this area ever again. I have been to that part of the lake front so many times. Never had an incident. Never heard of one there. Now I don't want to go go there as much, or at all, because of things like this.
I just wonder when will we as a people will stop impeding our own people from really growing into the potential that we are capable of. we have the potential to be the best in sports. We have the potential to birth more scholars. We have potential to produce more who contribute to the arts. But we are killing ourselves. Sad fact: Black people are 2.5 times more likely to kill another Black than a white person. I don't condone killing but I would think you would kill the one who oppressed you rather than your OWN PEOPLE. I wonder how many dreams have we stopped short and how many more will we show a complete indifference about. More Black people will be killed in some weekends by other blacks than the KKK murder in the last 10 years. I'm done right now...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts....

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Love can be easy but you make it hard....Period

"Love is one of the easiest things to do. We make it difficult with all of our "hidden" issues." I did not say this. A woman said this on YouTube commenting on that Jazmine Sullivan song In Love with Another Man.
I agree with her. I think a lot of women pay a lot of lip service how simple love is but there are so many hidden issues that never come in to surface that affect the course of growing this love into the potential thing that it could be. I look at that video and I just wonder how many good men get passed up by women like this guy. Then when men date down, he is settling. Well, what can you expect when good men are getting passed up? But I digress. My point is to say yes I agree with this person and their sentiment about her own gender.
Women can have a plethora of hidden issues that they won't bring up because they feel that it may not be important but then it becomes very important in the relationship and get mad when the guy can't handle it or wasn't ready to handle that. Hidden issues sometimes manifest itself in fits of anger that their mate can never truly seem to suppress no matter how hard they try. These hidden issues sometimes may forge a distance that she won't talk about that can be so potentially dangerous. Being in a committed relationship can be painful, bewildering, consuming, rewarding, wondrous. People want their partners to share creatively life's experiences of loss, loneliness, desire, excitement and hope. If our relationship is good, we want it better; if our relationship is pained or damaged, we want repair and renewal. When women lock away those hidden issues how can there be a foster of love? (And I'm not saying men don't have these issues but I'm talking about the ladies here. A lady said it and I want to comment on it)
Everyone has the potential to make his or her relationship more successful, joyful and long lasting. When these hidden issues stay inside, there is no chance from the start. I have been in dating situations where certain hidden issues in women, which I was made aware of after dating, stunted the growth of our relationship. It was always, " I didn't know how you would take it" or " I thought I could control it". I get their logic but all that did was make me want to take a few steps back rather than continue to forward with the project. Because after all these hidden issues keep surfacing and with no progress, all this become is a project. A project I'm just not on board to help you fix. Give me the chance to accept you for who you are. Tell me your issues so I can help you with them together and learn to understand more about you and maybe re-evaluate my ways of doing things to help you. But when you keep them too hidden, and they resurface in a negative manner than you're unwilling to divulge, the show needs to stop there...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Commitments...GIVE THEM DEFINITION...

Commitment. I don't think everyone get what that is implying when we get into or are pursuing romantic relationships. Some take them too serious and some not serious enough. Every relationship will be different in the level of commitment. I think the problem with commitment in individual relationships is that it becomes to big of a blanket word that is never clearly defined. Commitment is defined in the dictionary as: interaction dominated by obligations. These obligations may be mutual, or self-imposed, or explicitly stated, or may not. I think too many relationships have been crippled by the use or lack of use in some of these relationships where commitment becomes a problem.
First off, let's use the obvious. Mutual. This has become a glaring problem with commitment because sometimes it's not mutual. One thinks this way about commitment and another thinks another about commitment. They both find it unimportant to make sure their views are mutual about commitment and BOOM problems happen. I'm not even talking about cheating. Some people feel you speaking to an opposite sex friend on the phone after a certain time may be violating that commitment because that time is supposed to be their time. I have seen relationships like that. One party has never been in a relationship like that and thinks it's stupid. The other thinks it's right. So once again, it doesn't always have to be cheating. It's just simply the fact you two haven't come to terms about the mutuality of this commitment to each other.
My last point brings me into my next. the confusion of commitment can come from the commitment being self-imposed. You make this rule for yourself thinking the other person will get the memo right along with you. That is not the way commitment works again. You are giving it definition but no definition with each other which can turn out to become very problematic. For example, I had a friend who believes when two people are talking, there should be no one else you should be talking to. LIES. Why can't I give myself options to explore the best choice? She expects a guy to feel the same way. That's poppycock. She has self-imposed this definition on herself. He has not. Or it could be vice versa.
The next thing is explicitly stating or not. DON'T LET ANY COMMITMENT YOU MAKE WITH A PERSON HAVE AMBIGUOUS GUIDELINES. TALK ABOUT IT. You never, ever, want to enter a commitment without talking about the issue. That is a road to problems. Say what your self-imposed terms are and make them mutual. We cannot expect the person to get on the same page as you without being very explicit about the commitment you embark on.
I just wanted to share this brief blog with you...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts..

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Stay in the Friend Zone!!!

A romantic, monogamous, intimate relationship TYPICALLY is between two people. This is America so who knows nowadays. But let me get back. A relationship is between two people to nurture it. Two people to attempt to make something great out of their situation. Two people to at times agree and disagree. But sometimes these two people invite more people in the relationship than needed. I'm all for getting advice and I give it too. But I am not for the voice of your friend being much louder than yours in YOUR relationship. Sometimes it gets to the point as to where your mate knows that it was not you who came up with the statement that came out of your mouth! That look like, "Damn. They've been talking to such and such again." That is one of the most upsetting things that happens in damn near every one's relationship.
I have a couple of huge problems with the inviting of your friends into the relationship. Here is the 1st common problem: YOUR FRIEND DOESN'T KNOW WHAT A GOOD RELATIONSHIP IS!! I'm dead serious. You will get friends who will say that you need to do this or you should do that but take a moment to look at our friends relationships you've known about. I'm not saying they have to be in a relationship at that moment because they may have gotten cheated on, played, etc. But there are some of your friends you wouldn't even date because you know how they operate their relationship. Some of these friends have not had relationships past six months and the ones past that were probably not in the best of shape. So why get advice from this person? Because they know the symptoms of a bad relationship? No. They may know that much. But something that can be worked through or better approached they wouldn't know how to direct you in that direction. Sometimes your friend really can't relate to your problems. Deep down you know that too!!!
Another problem I have with too much friendly advice is that it's coming from too many damn friends!! This problem falls on the person in the relationship as well but sometimes too many damn friends are speaking on your situation. The fellas or the girls have a session to TELL YOU WHAT YOU NEED TO DO!!! You get like 6 different opinions. Now the facts are all mixed up in your head on what to do and your approach is all off!! It's like a good stock. You want to invest in it bad but after getting so many different opinions, you get a little lost in how to go about dealing with the stock. The same can happen with your significant other. I remember telling a brother not to get engaged. He got like 10 who said yes and like 8 who said no It's the wrong time. I'm glad he didn't listen to me. He followed his heart and he and his girl figured out the engagement and they are very happy.
One last problem I have more but I'll cut it short here. Some of these friends tend to think they have become decision-makers in the relationship. They feel if you follow their advice that your relationship will always run smooth. They tend to make you feel bad for not listening. They gravely overstep their boundaries. They will be living vicariously through you. Look at the movie Deliver Us from Eva and see if I'm lying. Those sisters in that movie listened to every drop of advice from their sister Eva to the point these men felt that Eva made all the decisions to where she was emasculating them. There are relationships like this with just Friends!!!
Friends, we appreciate you but at times back up a little. You are stepping over certain boundaries that need to be abide by. This relationship is between me and the one that I am with. At the same time, those in a relationship: SHUT YOUR MOUTH SOMETIMES. You do not need to run to your friends every three minutes for relationship advice. There are times to can get it on your own...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Stop Judging Me!!!

Does anyone have those Christian friends who are the biggest Bible thumpers in the world? They do everything to THEIR interpretation of the Bible and how someone else explained it to them. They are very fervent in their efforts, which is a good thing. I would rather know where you stand in your faith in Christ. I know there was a time where I was torn in between showing what was on the inside of me in fear of rejection of others. Foolish right? Anyway, back to my point. We all have those friends. I have to be honest, they annoy me more than anything. I can kind of see why people feel that Christians can be judgmental and hypocritical. Not that it just dawned on me, but I really can see it more clearly.
I think one of the biggest problems with these people is that they tend to forget where they came from before they got there. I'm not saying these people were armed criminals or anything but no one starts that fervent in their faith. The same mistakes that they are criticizing most people for are the same mistakes that they have made at one point in their lives and some are still turning a blind eye towards. Some women want to chastise other girls because they have recently become celibate but it didn't start off like that. They throw more stones than they are encouraging. Turning your back on something that is innate in you, hormones, is very difficult for anyone. If you can remain celibate, amen. If it's a road you want to try, go for it. I encourage it. These Bible thumpers will cut knives into you saying, " you don't understand this about your salvation or that about your life." They tend to forget that they were too. They turn off a lot of people to the faith that I, myself, love. In my church we emphasize, the world and its desires are tough so we must work together to encourage one another. We know that there will be mistakes along the way. God will help us but let's encourage instead of passing all types of criticisms against those who have fallen short.
One more thing these people tend to forget, WE ARE ALL SINNERS!!! But I state this: THIS IS NO EXCUSE TO CARRY ON IN SIN!!! I REPEAT: THIS IS NO EXCUSE TO CARRY ON IN SIN!!! We are all bound to sin, one way pr another. There is no escaping it. Some of these Bible Thumpers tend to think that they have been absolved from all sin and will walk with very little errors. Sorry but you will make mistake after mistake.We are all prone to it. We all will be sinners. We must work to help each other to not make the same mistakes any longer. Christianity can be compared to detox. You admit you need help, Christ, and you submit to changing your life until you are free from this problem in your life. On the course, you may have a relapse but you don't quit. Keep trying until you get it right and get some support. Some of these Bible Thumpers need to get that. People need more of your support than your chastising for their shortcomings. I will stop short here..thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Do We Still Hate Our Women?

1 Rape. 1 11-year old sixth grade girl. 18 men. Who is the victim? I know you're looking like, " What?". Yes, I ask, who is the victim? typically when you hear a story that breaks like this, it would be a no-brainer who is the victim. I would have thought so too. But unfortunately, in this particular black community, we don't know who is the victim. 18 men hellaciously raped this little girl. They took pictures of the rape. They recorded the incident. They laughed and waited their turn to remove any ounce if innocence this little girl had. The killer part is that they are trying to portray the little girl like it was her fault and that she wanted to sleep with all 18 of these men, back to back to back and so on. They said she dressed provocatively and enticed these men to commit such a horrid act. I could not believe this mess. You would think the men are saying this stuff. NO!! This filth is coming from mothers, sisters, daughters, aunts, grandmothers, WOMEN!!! What the hell? You would think they would be the biggest sympathizers as a gender who daily is objectified by men. No. She brought this on herself! This is a sad day in black history. And it's March. Women's History Month. Damn, stand up for a young woman growing up. Even if that 11-YEAR OLD dressed provocatively, she was young. There is plenty time for her to realize to change her wardrobe. She is a victim!! She is THE VICTIM! The ONLY VICTIM!
Why are we even debating who is the victim? Why do we treat our women like this? We are treating our like they are the cause of their own fate. I can't say that all of them are victims. I won't even lie. But they are still owed respect! They are still owed justice. Our women carry so many burdens from other races. They are subjected to many snide remarks from other races. They are discriminated against harder than most persons of color. Why do they have to face the same disrespect from their own people? Now, it gets to the point where more and more black women are the ones crucifying them. They are losing with black men and now they are losing with black women. Unity in purpose will take them many places but unfortunately, they don't see that. I'm done with this topic, for now...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...

Friday, March 4, 2011

I Have Questions, I Need Answers

Today was supposed to be a triumphant day for me today. I got a job offer at a full time job finally. After almost a year of searching and praying, God granted me a full time job. I had to politely decline it unless they are willing to accommodate my school schedule. I couldn't believe what I was doing but I did it. I thought about it long and hard. I talked to my cousin about it and I'm thankful for good people like him. He assured me that I was really making the right decision and the more I think about it, I know I did. A lot of people would tell me you can always go back to school. This is very true but when would I? Would I return the further I progress in my career? What if I get married and a child comes into the equation.

My biggest point is I don't want to live a life full of questions. I don't want my life ending up with more what ifs than what happened. I want to answer questions of myself. I don't want to keep looking back at my life and see another opportunity pass me by from me not looking at a larger picture. A lot of us do this. We settle for short term relief than seeking a long term solution. We never look at a grander scheme for our lives. I understand certain situations don't enable this. I have been trusting God so long and he has never let me down. I am thankful for his provisions in my life. I know God didn't put school here for me for no reason. I just don't want these questions of myself. I will excel in life. I will be answering more of myself than leaving questions unanswered...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...

Friday, February 25, 2011

Is Our Black History Becoming History?

This is Black history Month. A month to celebrate the achievements and the strides that Blacks in the past have made to better the status of Blacks in America. We celebrate the days of no longer being slaves and basic human rights being denied to us, in ideology. We celebrate great leaders like Martin Luther King Jr. who led many movements in hope of being in unison with one another. Malcolm X who taught us to take our freedom by any means necessary. Harriet Tubman who led many slaves to freedom the the Underground Railroad. Rosa Parks who plainly said no. I will not be moved. Fred Hampton who knew change was going to come. We celebrate all of these great people. But you know what? Nowadays, who cares? Who actually gives a damn about these things.

I'm serious as a heart attack. I love this month. I appreciate this month for what it is and what it has represented for a very long time. But what it represented does not carry the same valor as it used to even 10 years ago. The "new school" doesn't seem to care. I was talking to a mentee of mine and I asked who was Martin Luther King Jr. This little girl said he freed the slaves. I asked who was Rosa Parks. i was told she was Martin Luther King Jr's mother. I was appalled and I was told, " Why should I care who these people are or what they did? That happened so long ago." I wanted to choke my mentee. I told them you're benefiting from a legacy that they helped build. I got a shrug of indifference. That hit me so hard. It really makes me wonder will there be any significance of this month even ten years down the line. Where did this indifference come from? what is perpetuating this indifference amongst or own people? The kids don't care. Adults don't educate their children.

I pray people do not feel that we have made it. Black history is not stagnant. Black History is still being made. We JUST and FINALLY got a Black President but there has been SO MUCH MORE accomplished BEFORE his inauguration. There are so many young bright minds achieving great things in the Black community and in broader communities. We need to wake up out of our slumber before we lose all recognition of our great strides in Black History. Black History month is essential but we need to celebrate it everyday in this month especially! We need to revere our Black History. No other culture should be celebrating our Black History more than Blacks! We cannot let these children look at just athletes and musicians as our groundbreaking leaders in the Black Community. We need to keep telling our kids about the great leaders. They can aspire to be greater than those of the past. I wanted to be the next Malcolm X. I understand the times do not call for a leader of that magnitude but there are ways I can still be the next Malcolm X. I want to touch lives just like he did. I want to instill pride and value into the Black community. I will accomplish my dream. Please, don't let our Black History become History...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

One Day At A Time....

Michael Vick landed his first endorsement deal since being incarcerated for the dig fighting incident. This is one of the first steps back in him rising back to the plateau he took himself off. Michael Vick had fame. He had what many would hope for and many would not forfeit. Vick now has been granted an opportunity to turn his life back to where it was supposed to be. Vick has put the right people in his corner to help support him in getting back to superstar status. Through the unfortunate injury to Kevin Kolb, Vick's teammate, he was granted that opportunity. Vick took over this season and made serious MVP case for himself and the runaway favorite for comeback player of the year in the NFL. As much as some may have been upset over what he did, many people could not help but root for Vick. It was just so good to see him taking the opportunity he nearly squandered away and return better than when he left.
It takes one day at a time to rise back up where you were before, or even better. You place the right people in your corner and you work hard, there is nothing that you can't accomplish. Just take it one day at a time...thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...