Sunday, November 13, 2011

When Did Marriage become a Joke??

I think that marriage is on the worst kind of decline in America. It is staggering to think divorce rates are almost at 50%. That is probably not totally accurate but from research performed that is still somewhat correct. It is said that the divorce rate is 50% for first marriages, 67% for second marriages and 74% for third marriages. What the heck is that? Three times and the rate is higher? I would think you have it figured out by this point. But sadly it is more disparaging the third time around.
First let's look at common divorce problems. People at times are in love with the idea of marriage before they think about what it takes to stay married. People want to say in their lives that I got married and we are going to be so happy but tend to forget that a marriage is work! Yes, you were in a relationship together but that is still not a marriage. Some will say well we lived together beforehand. Well, true but cohabitation is like a contract that is suitable as long as needs are met. You can just leave with no consequence (unless your ex is crazy). Marriage, YOU BETTER try and make that work. Think of the shame of having to tell people that your marriage is failing. Think of the court systems. Think of having to deal with backlash after backlash. Think of the joint bank accounts!! Another reason is because people don't really talk about their expectations of each other. You can't wing a marriage like a relationship. You have to be upfront with each other to know can we move in the same direction. Another reason, people don't really pick mates that are truly compatible with our core beliefs. we try to sweep things under a rug or overlook some things but in some way or another these beliefs will surface. These beliefs can cause a big uproar.
The list can go on and on. I just hope that when people get married, they think about some of the issues above before they dive head first into a COMMITMENT like getting married. Get yourself together before it is that time to make such a huge step. The failure of marriage is depreciating the value of it...thanks for taking a look into My Thoughts...