Friday, May 27, 2016

Are You Willing to Change?

That is a very difficult question for many to answer. Many of us want to say that we are willing to do what it takes to change our lives when needed until we really see what all that change requires. Many of us are scared of what the change actually means. We are scared of how the change will turn our world around. Sometimes that change means building new habits, stepping out on faith with no guarantees, let go of old habits, letting some new people in, or letting some old people go. A life without change is a costly one. All change does not have to be dramatic changes. It could be small things that can be the difference between a good life and a great life. But friend, reader, passerby, etc change is inevitable. Positive or negative.

"Only idiots refuse to change their minds." Have you been the idiot before? Lord knows I have. I let my refusal to change and evolve cost me a lot. It has cost me money, people, my sanity, my happiness. Out of all of those, losing people hurts the most. I feel that everything else can be fixed because you have more control over the other things. People, you can't control. I lost some very good people in my life because of my refusal to be a better person. I had an opportunity to change my thought process many a time, and I didn't. Then when you look up and you finally change yourself, it's sometimes too late. DON'T BE AN IDIOT. Listen carefully and pay attention to the signs. You may value money more. You can lose that as well with a mind that positions itself in a false sense of invincibility. Don't do it. It ain't worth it.

"You cannot change what you refuse to confront." This is simple yet powerful. If you aren't willing to admit that something is off and it needs your attention, you'll be stuck. I loved to gamble. Well, I won and lost a lot. Lost more than I won. Needless to say, I made things so much harder on myself. I alienated some people who cared for me and pushed them away. I chose not to confront the issue. Me. I let it run its toll and man, what a mistake. When I looked up, I felt reduced to nothing. Turned to dumb habits. Again, I pushed some people who actually wanted to help away. Almost cost myself my gig. Finally, when I looked up and so many things I had were gone, I knew it was time. Don't refuse to confront things because when you finally come up for air, what you went in with will most likely be gone. Again, some you can recoup. Other things, nope!

"Don't be afraid to change. It can lead to a new beginning." This is the exciting part if you stay committed. Victory in this process is commitment. Commit yourself to the new beginning and the betterment of your life. It's not ignoring what leads to the change because that is your fuel! It's using what lead you to this point and going after what is yours! Maybe it's more money, a new relationship, building a new experience, etc! It can be so exciting. Don't be scared. Not all change is exciting. It can be leaving a job you felt comfortable, a bad relationship, moving to a new home with no friends or family. But go for it. Be willing to make the change. You will be better for it. And if it's a change that isn't done in haste, more than likely, you'll be OK. Don't make a change quickly cause something bad happened and use that to drown your feelings about it. I can almost guarantee it won't. In time, maybe. But in the short term, don't fool yourself. I see people leave jobs in anger or hurt, go elsewhere and be miserable. I've seen people leave other people and still haven't worked out their feelings. I have done it and it rarely ever worked out for me. I'm sure we all have at one point. In the public, it's all fine and dandy. In private, our minds take us places. It happens. But change positively.

"Be strong enough to sacrifice what you are doing now for what needs to be done." Be strong enough to leave your place of comfort. Bad experiences can change good people. Bad experiences can make you into someone you don't want to be and the refusal to change will be painful. Regret, regret, regret will set in. So do yourself a favor now and be willing to change....thank you for taking a look into My Thoughts...